“Be impeccable with your word”. So writes Don Miguel Ruiz in his landslide spiritual enlightenment bestseller, The Four Agreements. Make your word mean something.
I am not always impeccable with my word, although it is something I understand the importance of and strive to honour. I have spent a lot of energy beating myself up about this glaring shortcoming. It meant I wasn’t honest; it meant I was lazy; it meant that I was a people pleaser and couldn’t say no, and therefore I would spend my life falling short of what I said I would do. Believe me, there has been a lot of shame and anguish following this line of logic. Despite all my efforts thus far, I continue to promise too much, to commit to things I simply cannot carry through on, and say yes, only to regret it later.
In my life, I have observed that most people are well intentioned and they try to align their actions with their words. So if we know that it is important to do what we say, and we honestly have no desire to disappoint or hurt others, then why is it sometimes so hard to do exactly what we say we are going to do? I would like to suggest that the idea that “talk is cheap”, and only actions count, may be a more complex idea than it looks at first glance. Please view the PDF below for the entire article.